Recognize the
Red Flags

Sometimes knowing if someone is abusive or not can be difficult. We put together a list of common warning signs or “red flags” to watch out for.

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Recognize the
Red Flags

Sometimes knowing if someone is abusive or not can be difficult. We put together a list of common warning signs or “red flags” to watch out for.

Know The Signs

Does Not Honor Your Boundaries

  • Wants to move too quickly into the relationship
  • Excessive jealousy and accuses you of having affairs
  • Wants to know where you are all the time
  • Calls, emails, and texts you excessively throughout the day
  • Insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family

Says One Thing & Does Another

  • Criticizes you or puts you down; commonly tells you that you’re "crazy," "stupid" and/or "fat"
  • Tells you no one else would ever want or love you
  • Takes no responsibility for their behavior and blames others
  • Will suddenly rage out of control and act impulsively

Past has Inconsistencies

  • Blames the entire failure of previous relationships on their partner; for example, "My ex was a total bitch"
  • Has a history of battering
  • Grew up in an abusive or violent home
  • Seems “Too Good to be True”

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