Is It
Abuse?

Get the information you need to protect yourself and those you love.

Who Is
Affected?

Domestic violence can happen to anyone, regardless of race, ethnicity, age, sexual orientation, religion, gender, socioeconomic background, education level, or any other aspect of diversity. Most domestic violence is perpetrated by men against women.
 

Domestic Violence: Who Does It?

Partners

Persons who are married, divorced, dating, previously dating, and/or those who have children together.

Family

Persons who are related by blood (grandparent, parent, child, siblings) and persons who are related by marriage or partnership (in-laws, current or former stepparent/-child).

Stalkers

Persons who give unwanted or obsessive attention to another individual through threatening or harassing behaviors.

What Is Considered
Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is exhibited in a variety of ways. The list below includes many but not all of the ways someone may be abusive:

Emotional:

  • Name-calling and putdowns
  • Isolation from family/friends
  • Interfering with school
  • Intimidation
  • Yelling
  • Using children to manipulate parents’ emotions
  • Use of fear and shame
  • Sexist comments
  • Jealousy and possessiveness
  • Ridicule or public humiliation
  • Threats to harm family, friends, animals; to take away children; of being kicked out; of using weapons; of being killed

Physical:

  • Stalking
  • Punching walls, slamming doors, destruction of personal property
  • Shoving, strangling, slapping, biting, kicking, punching, scraping, pinching
  • Violence against pets
  • Forcing or withholding sexual contact, unwanted touching, reproductive coercion, rape

Financial:

  • Withholding money or implementing an allowance
  • Sabotaging attendance at job
  • Forbidding partner to work
  • Hiding or stealing assets
  • Preventing access to bank account
  • Deliberately destroying credit
  • Refusing to pay bills
  • Prevention of medical and dental care